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Said as it is….

Now dudes I know if you meet me in the streets, or the corridors…you gon’ have the urge to kill me, but as I was going through this piece, I just thought, “why not share it?” Now ladies, it might boost your ego or something, but what the heck- have your moment of fame. Dudes, get ready to be pinned down!!!

In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question:
‘What kind of man are you looking for?’
She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye & asking, ‘Do you really want to know?’
Reluctantly, he said, ‘Yes.’
She began to expound, ‘As a woman in this day & age, I am in a position to ask a man what can you do for me that I can’t do for myself?
I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man…
or woman for that matter.
I am in the position to ask, ‘What can you bring to the table?’
The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money.
She quickly corrected his thought & stated, ‘I am not referring to money. I need something more.
I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life.
He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, & asked her to explain.
She said, ‘I need someone who is striving for excellence mentally because I need conversation & mental stimulation. I don’t need a simple-minded man.
I need someone who is striving for excellence spiritually because I don’t need to be unequally yoked…believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster.
I need a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don’t need a financial burden.
I need someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded.
I need someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships Lies and game-playing are not my idea of a strong man.
I need a man who is family-oriented. One who can be the leader, priest and provider to the lives entrusted to him by God.
I need someone whom I can respect In order to be submissive, I must respect him.
I cannot be submissive to a man who isn’t taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive…he just has to be worthy.
And by the way, I am not looking for him…He will find me. He will recognize himself in me. Hey may not be able to explain the connection, but he will always be drawn to me. God made woman to be a help-mate for man. I can’t help a man if he can’t help himself.
When she finished her spill, she looked at him.
He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said, ‘You are asking a lot.
She replied, “I’m worth a lot”

We gotta up our games. Well said….


8 comments on “Said as it is….

  1. kate
    December 14, 2010

    A great read-and yes any lady who thinks like that is worth alot.What kind of man are we looking for?-a one woman-man who is as ambitious as I am and will not be threatened by mundane things in my own life.That preety much sums it up!!!

    • Jilani
      April 16, 2012

      Reminds me of Steve Harvey’s “Think like a lady, act like a man.” Thanks for reading.

  2. jo
    February 18, 2012

    Easily said: yet when a woman looks for these things in a man she she look for them in herself also. Unlike magnets the same attract each other in life. So the image you want will be like that you are. As for games the mind game is the worse especially when you think you are worth something that you are not.

    • Jilani
      April 16, 2012

      That is true. Very much true.

  3. farmgal
    June 2, 2012

    This post!!!!

  4. GiniK (@GinieKay)
    June 4, 2012

    I like this! Nice.

    • Jilani
      June 4, 2012

      Yes, me too. That’s why I found it worth sharing. Thank you for passing by.

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